Recall a time in the past 2-3 weeks where you succeeded in doing something that you felt good about. It can be simple or more complex. For example buying an item – a new outfit, a new suitcase, a desk. Cooking a new dish. Getting a new job. Finding information for a project or your job. Arranging an important meeting. Giving a presentation at work or to a client. Designing a new house or bridge or high rise building.
What do you think contributed to your success – that you had control over?
What I’m suggesting here is that we can control what goes on in our mind and heart. But we can’t control what goes on around us – other people, events. Although we can control our reaction to what goes on around us…..but that’s another discussion.
Listen to your self talk
Listen to yourself or anyone who succeeds at anything. Are you thinking about or talking about how difficult or impossible it is to do? How unsuited you are? How unlikely you are to succeed? No. The opposite.
You are confident.
You tell yourself things like:
“This is easy.”
“I can do this.”
“I’m sure I can find a way to do this”
“Other people have done this, so that means I can do it too.”
“This is exciting.”
“This is going to be great”
“I’m looking forward to a great outcome.”
Your mindset acts like a filter
From a positive mindset – attitude – you see and hear and find the answers you need to succeed. A positive mindset “opens” you to answers and solutions. A “negative” mindset “closes” you off.
Your attitude or internal state of being (what you are thinking or how you are feeling) acts like a filter – only allowing matching information to come to you.
Once you understand that you control your success by your attitude or mindset or thinking or expectations – then you are in the “driver’s seat” – so to speak. You know you can adjust the results you get in life by adjusting what you choose to think.
In general terms, how were you feeling? What were you thinking?
Generally positive? Generally negative?
I’m sure you were feeling generally positive.
That’s the key to on-going success….
When we bust (change) a limiting belief, we free more of our potential.
We can recognise a limiting belief when we hear ourselves or others say things like…
I can’t do …..
I can’t be ….
I can’t have ….
I should do …
I shouldn’t do ….
I have to ….
It’s impossible to ….
It’s too hard to ….
This week I downloaded the meditation app Headspace. So far I’m very impressed. I like the simple, easy approach to meditation. Uncomplicated. Focuses on breathing. The mini animations are fun and instructive 😋.
Think of Headspace as a fun “gym for your mind”. Having the app makes meditation easy, accessible.
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One of my favourite ways to recharge is using brainwave audios.
I put in my ear phones, close my eyes and let the rich resonant tones of harmonically layered binaural beats gently guide me into a relaxed flow state. Perfect at the end of the day to get an over active mind ready for sleep.
Kelly Howell, founder of Brain Sync, has created some of the best brainwave audios available. Check out the list of brainwave audios here.
Check your emotional barometer every day.
When you’re feeling “satisfaction” about your life and what’s unfolding each day, you’re on the way to “more satisfying moments”.
Conversely, when you feel “dissatisfied” with any aspect of your life, you are inviting “more dissatisfying” things into your experience.
This is the “work”. ….managing energy in the form of thoughts and emotions.
We know the importance of refueling our physical body everyday. Food and water are essential for life. But arguably even more importantly, we need to “re-fuel emotionally” every day as well.
What does it mean to “re-fuel emotionally”? And why every day?
Refueling emotionally is an opportunity to reconnect with our own internal resources. To re-balance emotionally. To find a place of centered calm. It’s a way to release the noise and mayhem of daily life – work, relationships, social media, obligations – and go within. To be silent, quiet for a while. With practice, 10-15 minutes can be long enough.
The intimate connection between our emotional state of being and our physical well being – health – is well documented Emotional well being impacts every area of our life.
When we feel relaxed, happy we move through the day in a completely different way to when we feel under the pump, frazzled, stressed.
Stress is primarily an emotional condition. And it is reflected in the body’s reaction for “fight or flight” responses to external reality. Stress is a significant precursor to illness, accidents, and a myriad of other problems.
Why do we need to refuel emotionally everyday?
If we practice any skill it becomes easier to do. It becomes a part of our natural repertoire – our natural skill set. If we practice the art of becoming centered, calm, relaxed, then if we find ourselves in a difficult situation, it’s easier to reclaim our calm and then look the problem situation. The results we get will be completely different. Top sports people and other elite performers know the difference of being “in the zone” as opposed to being on the “raw and ragged edge”. And it starts with emotional mastery. The ability to be able to quickly re-balance emotionally.
“What you put out you get back”
Find a range of ways you can start your day on a positive note. Start relaxed and in tune with your true nature, and watch the difference as your day unfolds.