Where do you find innovative and exciting teachers in the field of self help?

There are thousands of books and teachers on the subject of “self help”. Depending on where you are at you can find something that is relevant to your interests or needs. However in the field of “personal development” arguably the most exciting self help teachers today are Abraham-Hicks.

Unlike many authors or teachers, the Abraham-Hicks message continues to evolve for their audience. New analogies. New anecdotes. New stories to inspire. New concepts. New insights. New distinctions. Very exciting. They bust through the many limiting beliefs attitudes, and habits of thought, that most of us have picked up along our trail – that keep us from accessing the power that is our true nature.

Website

Facebook Group

The core message of Abraham-Hicks remains the same and yet continues to evolve

This year I am noticing two key themes.

1. The role ‘receptivity’ plays in our experience

Our receptivity is the frequency we are tuning into and broadcasting at any point in time. It indicates our state of “alignment” (or misalignment).

We are like a radio station

radiotower2What are you tuned to emotionally? To things that please you? That inspire you? That make you feel good? Or to things that worry you? Make you feel anxious or unsafe or fearful?

Where is your attention? What are you generally thinking about?

These are all clues about your “receptivity” – the frequency you are broadcasting – the frequency you are tuned to.

And whatever frequency (vibration) you are tuned to – is what you are attracting more of into your experience.

Our work as conscious creators is to become more aware of our “receptivity”. How we are feeling and what we are thinking about on a day to day basis. And to make changes accordingly – at an emotional level. To pay more attention to good feeling topics and pay less attention to negative feeling topics. This is the work.

2. The theme of living life “unconditionally”

Choosing to see the best in yourself, in others, and in the world

sun1This theme requires a paradigm shift in how we think and how we see the world and ourselves. Rather than reacting to what we see or hear around us – can we set our own “tone”? Can we choose the state of being we prefer? Can we look to the “bigger picture” – our preferred reality? Or are we puppets on a string – reacting to the external world (media, events, people).

Hope these ideas have inspired some of your own thoughts on these topics. Comments are always welcome.

Do you need to take a “chill pill”?

Do you need to take a “chill pill”?

All too often we get caught up in the hectic nature of our modern lives. We forget that life is a “process”. It’s a “never-ending story” .

BTW – have you seen that delightful movie of the same name? The Never Ending Story is the story of a young boy who escapes into a wondrous fantasy world through the pages of a mysterious book.

cover-TheNeverEndingStoryHow do you know if you are due for a “chill pill”?

Obvious clues include:

– Trying to control people around you. E.g. setting “rules” about what you consider is “appropriate behaviour” (put your clothes away, wash up your mess, put the toilet seat down, don’t turn on the water when I’m having a shower, don’t talk so loud, don’t – don’t – don’t  ….)  I’m sure you can add lots more examples.

– Trying to “manage” (aka control) events and circumstances around you.

What’s the net effect of such “commands” (disguised as “reasonable requests”)?

The relationship loses out.  How so?

Both parties feel constrained in some way. The one “asking” feels sufficiently compelled to voice their annoyance regarding the “undesirable” behaviour and the person getting the “order” – feels a lack of personal freedom.

Is this a good recipe for human interaction?

In my view – no!

Is this a typical type of interaction between people (couples, parents and children, work colleagues)?

Too often – yes.

Let’s look at this from a Law of Attraction (LOA) perspective

What are you “putting out”?

Disguise it as you may – essentially any attempt to get another person to change their behavior to make you feel better – is a criticism or complaint regarding their present “undesirable” (in your eyes) behaviour.

How does LOA “respond”?

It matches our vibration. It matches our dominant thoughts and feelings and brings “more of the same” kind of experience to us.

So in practical terms, how might that work?  Will it solve the immediate  “problem” of the noisy or messy kid or neighbour? Maybe “yes”.  They might agree to “co-operate” with you – to “please you” (to keep the peace).

But what you’re doing is actually amplifying your “discontent” – when you “voice it”. As you focus on the “problem” – what happens? Law of Attraction matches you up with other people and events that augment your “discontent”.

Often your “discontent” is grounded in a sense of “powerlessness” in the first place – that’s why you attempt to control.  It’s a “feeble” attempt at improving your situation (how you feel).

So what can you do?

Begin to notice yourself “telling others what to do” – to make you feel better. Pause and take a deep breath.  That’s your “chill pill”. Pause. Take a deep breath. Turn your attention to the solution.  And if that’s not easy – then change the subject completely – so that at least you ease your own annoyance – rather than augment it.

The best and easiest explanation on the subject of “control” comes from the teachings of Abraham (Esther Hicks).

Watch this clip where Abraham talks about “how to deal with people who treat you badly”.

Abraham-Hicks: What to do when people treat you badly

If you don’t change your thoughts

44K8SMRUABGD

If you don’t change your thoughts (what you think), then nothing in your life can change.

I’ve just listened to a clip from Abraham-Hicks from 2007. The information is timeless. One of their recurring themes is helping us to understand – and take action – to manage our thoughts – what we are thinking – on a daily basis. And the shortest route – the easiest way – is to begin to notice how we are feeling.

There’s a direct link between what we’re feeling and the thought behind the feeling. “I can do that!” feels a whole lot better than “I’m hopeless at that”. “I can change my life for the better” feels a whole lot better than “I can’t change my life, I’m at the mercy of fate or my partner or the economy…..”

Thoughts create. It really is that “simple”.

So why don’ we take that knowledge to heart and make it work in our favor? You’ve guessed it!  Habit. Habitual ways of thinking. Beliefs, attitudes and opinions we’ve collected over the years – that we “feel comfortable with thinking”.

Habits feel comfortable. They feel normal. They feel familiar – like old friends. They’re predictable. They represent the “known”…. we know them well. And they’re convenient. They save time. Imagine having to consciously recall every step required to drive – or write – or use a computer.  So habits serve us well in many areas.

But there are areas where habits actually limit us – they keep us stuck in the same old reality – the same old life. Change comes about when we change our habits – when we change our thinking – when we change our expectations of ourself and of our life.

Unfortunately change doesn’t feel “comfortable”.  In fact it usually feels “uncomfortable” – awkward – unnatural.  We feel self conscious. We aren’t (yet) sure or convinced that the new habit is going to pay off for us.  We need to hang-in – to persist – to keep going.  For how long? Until see begin to see the desired change in our life. Until the new way of thinking begins to feel “normal” or “natural” or “comfortable” to us – as comfortable as the “old thinking” felt. And we begin to see concrete changes appearing in our life.

Everyone of us has areas in our life where we’d like improvement.  And we know that this will always be the case. Growth is second nature to us. The part that I think we forget – too easily – is that if we continue to look at our current reality – our current life or circumstances – and we have the same habitual reactions to it – the same thoughts and feelings about it – then we aren’t going to see anything change in the situation.

We have to find a way to “look beyond” the current situation – to imagine a different scenario – and to hold that new vision – the thoughts and feelings associated with that new vision – until our reality begins to morph into the vision – and we feel the exhilaration of seeing the changes come about. We did it. We changed our thoughts. We let out feelings guide us.

Here’s the Abraham-Hicks clip I mentioned earlier. Wonderfully clear. What they are saying applies to every subject (not just health).

The gift of perspective

I’ve just listened to an interesting clip from Abraham-Hicks (link below) where Abe is talking to a man deeply entrenched in his pessimistic worldview. You can hear his sense of powerlessness – and anger – as he speaks. But Abraham reminds him – or more likely – the audience – that life is about choices – and perspectives. We get to choose what perspectives we hold.

It makes me appreciate the gift Abraham – and others like them – have given us – with their uplifting and empowering positive message (perspective) of life. We create (attract) the life we are living. For most, that attraction is unintentional. They’re not aware that their thoughts and emotions (aka their vibration) are contributing factors in what they are attracting.

Like many, I’ve had highs and lows in life – bouts of pessimism and gloom – as well and great optimism. Fortunately the optimism has prevailed. My natural sense of curiosity and enthusiasm have stood me in good stead.

More than anything else our attitude – and I include in ‘attitude’ – our thoughts and emotions – the way we react to life and events – our attitude is entirely in our control.  And depending on the attitude we choose – on a consistent basis – Law of Attraction (LOA) mirrors back to us “proof” of our attitude.

IOW – ‘we get what we expect’.  If we expect things to turn out well, then that’s what happens.  And conversely, if we expect things to turn out poorly – that’s also what happens.  This understanding – alone – is so tremendously powerful. Life is our mirror!

Law of Attraction is responding to us in every detail.  There are ‘no accidents’.  There are only perspectives – and choices. What choices are you making today? What attitude are you cultivating?

Listen to the Abraham-Hicks clip here.

Why learning to exercise mind control is so important to your happiness

Learning to exercise “mind control” is a vital skill in the repertoire of every conscious reality creator.

There is no avoiding it.  If you don’t take control of what’s running in your head – your mind – then you aren’t going to like the kinds of people and events that pop up in your experience.  You’re going to feel as if you are at the mercy of fate.  At the mercy of your boss. Or your partner or your kids. Or the government. Or of global economic conditions. Or the weather.  The list goes on…

Bottomline – take control of your thinking and you take control of your life.

Here’s a great Q&A from Abraham Hicks on the subject of mind control.