How To Break the Habit of Being Yourself

In his latest book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Dr Joe Dispenza explains you are not doomed by your genes and hardwired to be a certain way for the rest of your life.  He talks about the new science of the mind (neuroscience) and how it is emerging that all human beings have the ability to create the reality they choose.

Read more here – Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself



A quantum perspective on how to reinvent yourself

I’ve just listened to the Hay House World Summit (2013)  interview of Dr Joe Dispenza by Michael Neill.

What a gem!

As Joe says, quantum physics is the modern interpreter of mysticism. It is demystifying ancient knowledge and telling us how we can function (joyfully) in our personal reality.  It is explaining the role and impact of our thinking and emotions and choices in creating the experiences we have and the life we are currently living.

His work dovetails beautifully with what leading edge teachers like Esther Hicks and Bashar are also telling us. His discussion and insights add to the bigger picture understanding of how we can truly become masters of our own destiny – through deliberate and conscious choices to think and feeling differently.  To think and feel better – more often – and more consistently. To craft the self image we prefer to have of ourselves.

What I found particularly exciting was his discussion of how we can literally reinvent ourselves – at will – once we understand that we are mostly running on “old programming”  – old habits of thought and emotional reactions – that have reached their “use-by” date.

Rather than waiting til we hit “rock bottom” and then attempting to pick up our psychic selves – as it were – we can experience joyful change and transformation. This is not a metaphorical change. This is a literal change. For example create the good health, the finances, the relationships, the abundance, etc that we seek. We can be our true selves – no longer reacting to our external environment – but instead initiating change from within and then seeing our outer world mirror that inner change back to us.

But there is a “price” to pay. We must be willing to give up our old ideas of ourself – old habits of thinking and reacting to the external world.  This involves stepping into the unknown – stepping beyond our “comfort zone” – feeling uncomfortable for a time – until new habits kick in.

What I loved about the interview is how Dr Joe pulls together many strands of knowledge or information that are available in the new sciences like quantum physics, the self help area, NLP, education and training, and so forth. He offers a very accessible way of understanding the nature of physical reality and our role within that domain (“game”).

For example, we are now understanding why brainwave technology and meditation are such powerful agents for change. Both are a fast track way to change your brain chemistry – your neuronal frequency – from beta to alpha to theta states. Happy people, high achievers, creative people have discovered such optimal states either by accident or have been taught. We have heard of “being in the zone” – of “being in the flow” – and now we are learning how to achieve such states with ease – and from that state – to envision our life as we prefer it to be. It really is the stuff of magic…

I could go on ..

The way Joe Dipenza explains “personal change” is cutting edge – very accessible – and very “do-able”.

I went over to Amazon and bought the Kindle version of his most recent book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

When I’ve read it – it’ll write a post.

Managing your vibration is like cleaning your teeth

clean-teeth1How so you ask?

Because it’s something that you need to “do every day”! If you skip a day or so – then your reality begins to mirror back to you your “lack of attention”.

Yes, on one level it can seem tedious – but that’s the way it is.  Your vibration is a living, breathing force-field that emanates from your being.

What you choose to think about – what you choose to focus on – and pay attention to – shapes your vibration – for “better or worse”.

Just as plaque will accumulate on your teeth if you don’t brush and floss every day, so too negative thinking and emotions “accumulate” in your energy field (force-field) to a point where you begin to see unwanted “physical evidence” around you.

What form does this “evidence take?

The interactions you have with others and what they say to you – is always an instant clue.  The kinds of events you encounter is another good clue.

In my experience, when I begin noticing “unwanted” stuff in my life, it’s usually because I’ve become somewhat complacent with respect to my vibration.  I’ve let my attention go to “unwanted” stuff – and allowed myself to think and chew over it.

Fortunately these days I understand that “my vibration” is the basis for all things that come into my experience – both good and bad.  And I  know how to “pattern interrupt” an emerging negative tide.

This was brought home to me today – when I saw a young woman venting her anger at someone she was contacting on the phone (tele-sales). She had no idea that the person she was interacting with matched her own vibration at some level. Like most people, she believes that life is happening “outside of her” – that she is at the “effect” (mercy) of people and events. She doesn’t know that it’s an “inside job”.

Her attitude is very common and comes from a place of disempowerment.  I’s no wonder that people “lash out” in their sense of powerlessness.

Your vibration is the key

vibration1One of the greatest “gifts” about learning about how Law of Attraction (vibration) “works” in your life, is that once you “get it” – then you reclaim your personal power.  You realize that you are in control because you are the one who chooses what you focus on (give your attention to).

The more you practice being in positive states of being and actively choosing what you give your attention to – the more you feel empowered because you get to see those positive states played out in your life and experience very quickly.

Developing your mental muscles

I’m not going to say that it’s “easy”.  It does take practice to develop new “mental muscles” – new mental / emotional habits and responses –  when you may have spent years with counter productive habits (blaming others, the world, etc). But it’s certainly worth the effort because of the improved quality of life that results if you do.  And in time, it becomes fun to catch yourself  “in the act” – and to recalibrate (adjust) your vibration in an upward direction. Very empowering.

You get what you expect – period

You get what you expect – period!! I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “you get what you expect”.

In fact it’s pretty well accepted when teaching young children – or teenagers – or adults –  that they rise or fall to the level of expectation of their teachers or parents or managers. How is this so?

Let’s look at it from a Law of Attraction perspective. What you think about – what you talk about – what you ponder or dwell on – becomes your “point of attraction’. That’s where your energy is.

Your thoughts establish your “point of attraction”.  And – one way of knowing what your point of attraction is – at any time – to tune into how you’re feeling (see end of post for more on this – ** The thought-emotion link).

The main thesis of this post is – “you get what you expect”.  If you expect a partner or friend or colleague to behave in a positive way – then – voila – that’s the vibration you’re “putting out” – that’s the vibration that LOA is going to respond to – and that’s the type of behavior (from others) that you’re gong to experience in your life. Their behavior (good and bad – desirable or undesirable) will “match” your expectations (what you think will or won’t happen).

It has nothing to do with what others are “doing”.  Sorry! It hasn’t. You can say it does.  You can pretend it does.  But it doesn’t.  It’s all about YOU/ US. It’s all about our own vibration.  It’s all about where we are focusing – where – or what we are paying attention to. The bottom line is that we control the types of people (their behaviors) that we “rendezvous” with. That can be either “good news” or “bad news” when you finally accept it.

The challenge is to “give up” our current point of view – how we are seeing others and our reality right now (if it’s not what we prefer) – and to lightly shift our focus – to the reality we prefer.  And when we’re “ready” – we will actually do this. We will do it when “being right” is less important than “:being happy”.  But that’s the subject of another post 🙂

** The thought-emotion link

Your thoughts trigger corresponding emotions. How you’re feeling – your emotional state of being – is the easiest way of figuring out your “point of attraction”. It’s “easy” – once you’ve learnt to do this. You can learn to recognize – in a twinkling of the eye –  if you’re feeling good or if you’re “not feeling good”. “Not good” translates into feeling states like “uncomfortable, impatient, anxious, critical, fearful” and so forth. There’s usually some degree of tension or discomfort present.

By contrast “feeling good” states include states like:feeling relaxed, comfortable, having positive expectations, feeling at peace with yourself, peaceful, happy, and so forth.

If you don’t change your thoughts


If you don’t change your thoughts (what you think), then nothing in your life can change.

I’ve just listened to a clip from Abraham-Hicks from 2007. The information is timeless. One of their recurring themes is helping us to understand – and take action – to manage our thoughts – what we are thinking – on a daily basis. And the shortest route – the easiest way – is to begin to notice how we are feeling.

There’s a direct link between what we’re feeling and the thought behind the feeling. “I can do that!” feels a whole lot better than “I’m hopeless at that”. “I can change my life for the better” feels a whole lot better than “I can’t change my life, I’m at the mercy of fate or my partner or the economy…..”

Thoughts create. It really is that “simple”.

So why don’ we take that knowledge to heart and make it work in our favor? You’ve guessed it!  Habit. Habitual ways of thinking. Beliefs, attitudes and opinions we’ve collected over the years – that we “feel comfortable with thinking”.

Habits feel comfortable. They feel normal. They feel familiar – like old friends. They’re predictable. They represent the “known”…. we know them well. And they’re convenient. They save time. Imagine having to consciously recall every step required to drive – or write – or use a computer.  So habits serve us well in many areas.

But there are areas where habits actually limit us – they keep us stuck in the same old reality – the same old life. Change comes about when we change our habits – when we change our thinking – when we change our expectations of ourself and of our life.

Unfortunately change doesn’t feel “comfortable”.  In fact it usually feels “uncomfortable” – awkward – unnatural.  We feel self conscious. We aren’t (yet) sure or convinced that the new habit is going to pay off for us.  We need to hang-in – to persist – to keep going.  For how long? Until see begin to see the desired change in our life. Until the new way of thinking begins to feel “normal” or “natural” or “comfortable” to us – as comfortable as the “old thinking” felt. And we begin to see concrete changes appearing in our life.

Everyone of us has areas in our life where we’d like improvement.  And we know that this will always be the case. Growth is second nature to us. The part that I think we forget – too easily – is that if we continue to look at our current reality – our current life or circumstances – and we have the same habitual reactions to it – the same thoughts and feelings about it – then we aren’t going to see anything change in the situation.

We have to find a way to “look beyond” the current situation – to imagine a different scenario – and to hold that new vision – the thoughts and feelings associated with that new vision – until our reality begins to morph into the vision – and we feel the exhilaration of seeing the changes come about. We did it. We changed our thoughts. We let out feelings guide us.

Here’s the Abraham-Hicks clip I mentioned earlier. Wonderfully clear. What they are saying applies to every subject (not just health).

Your every now moment is a unique expression of you

What makes the difference between a life you love and one you don’t?

It’s the little things you do every day. Like your habits of thought.  Your habits of feeling.  Your habitual reactions. And above all – realizing that each moment is ‘literally’ new – fresh. It’s you expressing your creativity in physical form. It’s not a re-run of stuff from yesterday or last year – though it may look that way.  It’s the particular combination of your thoughts, emotions, expectations – materialized right now.  Egads! Amazing but true.

Why learning to exercise mind control is so important to your happiness

Learning to exercise “mind control” is a vital skill in the repertoire of every conscious reality creator.

There is no avoiding it.  If you don’t take control of what’s running in your head – your mind – then you aren’t going to like the kinds of people and events that pop up in your experience.  You’re going to feel as if you are at the mercy of fate.  At the mercy of your boss. Or your partner or your kids. Or the government. Or of global economic conditions. Or the weather.  The list goes on…

Bottomline – take control of your thinking and you take control of your life.

Here’s a great Q&A from Abraham Hicks on the subject of mind control.